- 28
- Dec
Child Custody Parenting Plans
I often hear from clients that they just want to finalize their divorce and move on with their lives. Going through a divorce can be devastation and it’s definitely a trying time in one’s life but make no mistake, it’s not a process to be rushed, especially if you have shared children. If you have children, your parenting plan is so important. This is the document that will control how you and your soon to be ex-spouse will share parenting time and decision making authority for what could be many years to come.
Do not make the mistake of simply filing out the general court form in reliance that you and your child’s other parent will agree on issues for the next several years. Children’s needs change, families relocate, parent’s remarry. It’s not uncommon for the new spouse in the picture to completely change the dynamic. The introduction of the step-father for many biological/legal fathers can be difficult and at times destructive to the parental relationship. The introduction of the step-mother can also change the dynamics between the parties. I often hear that the father has been paying child support and when the new wife is introduced into the picture, she has some definite opinions about the time-sharing schedule and subsequently the amount of child support that the father is paying. New children change the dynamic, as well as step-children. You want to make sure that your parenting plan is well thought out and doesn’t leave much room for different interpretations.
The parenting plan should be approached as an almost worst case scenario, even if you are on good terms with your children’s mother or father. The parenting plan can be used as a fall back plan as the parties are free to communicate and to be for flexible with the plan. Your parenting plan may dictate that the parties alternate holidays, but the parties are free to make their own agreed upon temporary schedule changes. It’s difficult to endure the lengthy process that can come with divorce with children but you’ll be happy that you didn’t let your emotions overcome your position in the long run. Parenting plans are so important to get right the first time.
- 31
- Oct